The ugliness between Mildred Woody and Tiff Der exploded into full public view at the absolutely unhinged reunion episode. The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘s most dysfunctional couple (that’s saying a lot) left no doubt that they should have never said yes. There was crying, admissions of domestic violence, walkouts, and allegations of the use of sex board games, whatever those are. Host Joanna Garcia Swisher sat there dumbfounded and Aussie Chau’s abuse memories were triggered. Although Sam Mark did her usual superhuman job of giving Tiff space, someone should have stopped this madness. Some criticized Netflix for letting Jackelina Bonds skip the Love Is Blind reunion, but that was for the best. Now all that’s left is for Tiff and Mildred to pick up the pieces and move on as best they can. Let’s see how they’re doing with The Ultimatum: Queer Love: Where Are Mildred And Tiff Now?
The Ultimatum: Queer Love: Where Are Mildred And Tiff Now? Mutual Accusations
Obviously we have to go to both Mildred and Tiff’s Instagram accounts for the immediate reaction. Mildred says she has taken responsibility for her violent behavior and says she is grateful for the moment where Tiff proposed. “I will never forget how I felt this day with such immense happiness. Thank you Tiff,” says one caption. Additionally, she says, “I’ve held myself accountable by seeking therapy because that’s the only way to repair the damage.” Furthermore, on the subject of her behavior at the reunion, she says she was “very calmly addressing my story while being in pain.” Do you believe her? Tiff also has their own take on what happened, doing a humorous callback to Love Is Blind star Cole Barnett at his own reunion showdown. They write, “Feeling empathy for Cole and literally having no idea […] that your turn is coming up.”
Tiff says that their mental health is in a good place in response to a question on her IG. They thank their fans for support and for sharing their similar experiences. Certainly they have no desire to attack Mildred any more, but they are feeling the impact of the social media attention. They mention that there were other issues surrounding Mildred’s child. (They have decided not to talk about exactly what has happened out of concern for Mildred’s son.) Tiff said that they had to stay as calm as possible because once the calling out started it wouldn’t stop. “She hated me, or felt like she deserved more, because I didn’t want to join a bank account so I wouldn’t be controlled financially,” Tiff says. Tiff says, “What you saw was on TV was 25% of the accusations” and Mildred’s accusations lasted for 5-8 minutes.
The Ultimatum: Queer Love: Where Are Mildred And Tiff Now? Lingering Questions
Tiff has also asked a few tough questions now that they have distance from the reunion. These include, “If I had a sex boardgame that allegedly came in the mail after I broke up with someone, then why did this someone open my mail?” Also, they ask, “Should Netflix have displayed a content warning before the 10th episode?” The associated poll is running 94% yes to 6% no. Tiff does have time for TikTok sessions with Kariselle Snow of Sexy Beasts/Perfect Match. They are also the guest of honor at a watch party at LA’s Eden nightclub this Saturday. According to Netflix’s Tudum, Tiff says, “I realized that the issues that I had as a kid with my father carried into my relationship. I do believe we attract our childhood wounds and we yearn for it in our relationships.” So, they are working on themselves as well.
In the same article, Mildred says she is “healing through dance and inspiring others to do the same” as she has taken up Zumba. Let’s hope that some good comes out of this rough experience for both Mildred and Tiff.