The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘s most dysfunctional couple Mildred Bustillo and Tiff Der ended up getting engaged in the season one finale and it looked like they were finally going get their happily ever after. However, the reunion episode revealed their engaged life became a nightmare. The two moved in together after the show, but Mildred claims nothing changed. She said Tiff didn’t have a job and asked her to pay two-thirds rent because of her child with special needs living with them. Tiff also admitted they didn’t make an effort to make a connection with Mildred’s son. Mildred then admitted she assaulted Tiff and ended up arrested. Let’s take a closer look at Mildred’s arrest after The Ultimatum: Queer Love.
Mildred’s Arrest From Admitted Domestic Assault Against Tiff After Filming The Ultimatum: Queer Love
Mildred started laying into Tiff as soon as it was their turn to talk about their relationship. She started by accusing them of being “intrusive” for contacting her family about their dog Shylo nearly dying near Christmas time. She also brought up Tiff wouldn’t allow her to talk about the wedding or make plans for the future. Mildred claims so much happened, and she left Tiff. But they dispute that, saying they left Mildred.
After throwing a bunch of allegations against Tiff, Mildred admitted she was arrested for domestic assault.
“Obviously, as you all know, we had a very tumultuous relationship. It was a roller coaster. There were a lot of ups and downs,” she started.
“It’s really hard for me to say, I was arrested. I threw a picture frame and I broke it. And the glass shattered everywhere. And I threw a pet gate at you, and it was really heavy. At the same time, I was grabbing all of your clothes from the closet and throwing them downstairs because I wanted you to leave my home,” Mildred said.
“So you did throw the dog gate at me. The police statement says you took it back,” Tiff responded.
“Yeah, I threw something at you. And you called the police on me. And they arrested me in my home. They took my engagement ring off. And I never put it back on. I’m not proud of what I did. But there was a lot of fighting. There was always screaming, yelling, punching the walls.”
The details of the domestic assault charges against Mildred and her mugshot aren’t readily available online at this time.
During the reunion, Mildred’s trial marriage partner Aussie Chau looked like they had PTSD flashbacks of their time living with Mildred, where the ended up fleeing.
Mildred also posted a series of now-deleted domestic violence Instagram stories where she said others perpetrating or receiving violent abuse from a partner should seek help.
Mildred Claims Tiff Degraded Her, Tiff Fires Back Mildred’s A Narcissist
Tiff called me a trash mom. Degraded me. There was a lot of problems when it came to my son. And I did not feel accepted as a mother,” Mildred added in the reunion.
“Yeah, I did have a problem with connecting with your son, absolutely,” Tiff said.
Then Mildred went on a tirade about Tiff seeing others after the breakup and saying they bought a bunch of “sex games”.
Tiff ended up breaking down and leaving the reunion early from the verbal onslaught. Since the reunion aired, Mildred
She’s apparently gone to therapy (and hopefully anger management classes).
“I left the relationship in September of 2022 and for the protection and privacy of a child, I’m not comfortable talking about it further,” Tiff said in their own response on Instagram. “This is the only extent of the truth I will share. I mean no ill intent or harm toward the person I left. I said nothing on stage to hurt her despite me having every right to feel incredibly angry for being gaslit in front of millions of people… and I don’t plan to. All I can say is I hope they have healed because hurt people hurt people.”