The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘s Xander Boger and her ex partner Vanessa Papa stole the show in the first four episodes of the lesbian spinoff of Netflix’s hit reality TV show The Ultimatum. Viewers were shocked to find out that the beautiful four-year-old couple first knew each other when their high school boyfriends turned out to best friends. The two reconnected in their mid-twenties, after both came out as lesbian, and were inseparable up until going on the show. Netflix viewers also couldn’t believe how cold and calculating Xander’s ex Vanessa was in wanting to hurt co-star Lexi. Vanessa picked Lexi’s ex Raelyn as her trial marriage partner and hooked up with her in what looks like spiteful revenge.
Shockingly, Xander didn’t have any answer and deflected when asked why her ex Vanessa agreed to be on the show if she never intends to get married. On the show, Xander partnered with stunning Yoly Rojas. The two make a very cute couple and show a lot of affection for one another. Here’s everything fans need to know about Vanessa’s better half, The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘s Xander.
The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘s Xander: Physical Therapy Job, Instagram, Age, Birthday, Zodiac Sign, Tattoos
Xander giving her followers helpful advice on learning (Instagram).
Xander hails from New Jersey, where she met Vanessa in high school, but now lives in Hawaii. Vanessa lived with there, too, but now lives in LA (not a big spoiler these two probably didn’t last after the show). Xander’s Instagram largely includes her meditating, working out and enjoying living in paradise.
Xander has a successful career working as a doctor of physical therapy and has her own business. She showed some of her skillset off by giving a massage to Yoly on the show. Xander’s business website, offers physical therapy and workout packages for those recovering from injury, suffering from recurring injuries or pain, or anyone looking to get in shape. She works with some of her clients on stunning beaches in Hawaii. However, she also takes long-distance clients.
Xander’s age on the show, filmed back in the fall of 2021, was 30. However, she’s now age 31 and celebrates her birthday on June 13. Her zodiac sign is Gemini, which fits her charming, outgoing personality.
Some fans noticed Xander has some tattoos seen on the show. She has sunflower on her one arm and a butterfly on one ankle.
The Ultimatum star Xander’s tattoos (Instagram).
Is Xander Single After The Ultimatum: Queer Love?
Xander, with long hair, back when she and Vanessa’s relationship first started back in 2018 (Instagram).
It looks pretty clear Vanessa and Xander went to splitsville after filming the show. Vanessa created a new Instagram, deleting her influencer account she bragged about on the show in order to get a fresh start. She at one point lived in a moldy apartment after moving from Hawaii after the likely breakup. Meanwhile, Xander shared on Instagram some cute photos of her trial marriage to Yoly while on the show. Meanwhile, Yoly’s ex Mal Wright seemed very ready to move on with Instagram, TikTok and OnlyFans influencer Lexi Goldberg. There’s a small chance Yoly and Xander ended up together, judging by her IG.
Xander and Yoly on a cute date together while filming The Ultimatum: Queer Love (Instagram).
That said, they don’t live near each other, and Yoly would need more than a U-Haul for one of them to move halfway across the Pacific Ocean to be together. We’ll have to wait and see if these two on-screen love birds ended up together at the end of the show when we get an answer to everyone’s relationship statuses.
